Let’s continue recognizing different types of “discipline” in the Bible.
i) Natural
and logical consequences (Prov. 1:30-31; 2:21-22; 19:20). This is the application of “the law of the
harvest.” Whatever a man sows, that
he will also reap (Gal. 6:7). In
Prov. 1:30-31, failure to heed wisdom will result in a person eating the
fruit of their own way. God dealt
with Israel in this way. In Lev. 26 and
Deut. 28 God tells Israel what good things will happen if they obey and what
bad things will happen if they disobey. A
parent might tell a child that disobedience will mean a loss of privilege that logically
fits with the particular situation.
ii) Spanking
(Prov. 10:13; 13:24; 19:18; 15:10; 20:30).
The Bible is unequivocal about this.
Failure to make this part of parental discipline is to withhold love
from one’s child. Note some of the “logic”
behind this. A rod is for the back of
him who is devoid of understanding (10:13).
In other words, it is not the first disciplinary but for a child who
will not listen or respond to lesser consequences. Pr. 15:10 emphasizes this use of physical
discipline when a child becomes set in the path of disobedience: Harsh
discipline is for him who forsakes the way, and he who hates correction will
die. There is an emphasis on being
timely with discipline and not delaying.
Chasten your son while there is hope (19:18). He who spares the rod hates his son, but
he who loves him disciplines him promptly (13:24). We live in a society where this is rejected
and it seems clear that our society is reaping the consequences with rebellious
children and self-centered (narcissistic) adults.
iii)
Imitation (1 Tim. 3; Titus 1). Underlying all teaching or shepherding
relationships in the Bible is the need for those in authority to set an example
for those they lead. Quite often teachers
or political leaders or even church leaders are not held accountable outside of
their work or profession. That is not
the case in Scripture. And it holds for
parents in the home.
b)
What attitudes are essential in carrying out
discipline? In case you wonder, the
Bible does not advocate senseless beating of children. Physical discipline, and all other
discipline, is important and must be administered with …
i)
Love (Prov. 3:11-12).
Apply 1 Cor. 13 to your parenting plan.
ii)
Wisdom (Prov. 17:10).
Take time to talk often and long with children. Admonish them with God’s word (Eph. 6:4).
iii)
Hope (Prov. 22:6).
iv) Faith (Psalm
128). As I fear God He will bless my family.
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