f) Here
are 6 principles that tell us what it means to forgive. Perhaps you can relate these to a specific
situation in life where you are finding it hard to extend forgiveness.
i) Forgiveness
involves a positive attitude toward the offense, rather than a negative
attitude toward the offender.
ii) Forgiveness
views the offender as a tool of God. An
illustration of this might be seen in 2 Sam. 16:11-12 when Shimei, a relative
of King Saul, was cursing David and throwing stones at him as he fled from
Absalom. Abishai wanted to kill
Shimei. Why not? Revenge would have felt good as they were seemingly
on the losing end of things against Absalom.
But remember: David had never wronged King Saul or his descendents. He would not kill Saul when he had the chance. He treated Mephibosheth, the son of Jonathan,
with mercy. So David preferred to put it
in God’s hands, thinking that God would see would do His work in the matter.
iii)
Forgiveness looks at the wounds of the offender as God’s
way of drawing attention to the offender’s needs. These first three principles are built on a
fundamental truth in Scripture: God is always at work. It is God who works in you both to will
and to do for His good pleasure (Phil. 2:13). He makes all things work together for
good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose (Rom.
8:28). This must, therefore, include the
harms done to us by others.
iv) Forgiveness
recognizes that bitterness is assuming a right we don’t have. This is another truth that is emphasized in
Rom. 12:1-21.
v) Forgiveness
realizes that the offender has already begun rec3iving the consequences of his
offenses. God is the righteous Judge of
all the earth. He does not call us to judge
those who sin against us. Like Christ,
who did not revile those who reproached Him, we are called to seek the
lost. It is quite possible that a great
door will open into the heart of someone who treats us shamefully if we are
Christ to them.
vi) Forgiveness
involves cooperating with God in the offender’s life. It is our privilege to pray for and bless
those who revile and persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you
falsely for My sake (Mt. 5:11; Lk. 6:28).